The Dirty Little Tricks CPS Doesn’t Want You to Know


THE LITTLE KNOWN “DIRTY TRICKS” OF DCFS/CPS/DSS THAT ARE HIDDEN FROM VIEW
(Resource…Gregory A. Hession, attorney and Creator of Web Site Mass Outrage)

You will not find this “DIRTY TRICK” section in any DCFS/CPS/DSS manual, but it ought to be. These tricks are well known by all DCFS/CPS/DSS agents and they use them and pass them on as oral tradition. Forget the law and regulations. They do! Their tactics are questionable and they have all the power. They don’t fear the law and DCFS has everyone, even the judges and lawyers, scared of that power. DCFS/CPS/DSS doesn’t seem to know the difference between “actual abuse” and “minor harm.”

The code of ethics visited upon the foster caretakers is far different than those enforced for biological parents. True…there are those few foster homes that practice abuse to the children they serve and it is agreed that these homes should be closed and the caretakers dealt with severely. But that is NOT the norm with foster caretakers. More the norm is that they love these children that they care for. They go the “extra mile” to give them a normal life. True, they receive a monthly allotment but for the caring foster caretaker this does not even begin to cover what they spend on these children. And they do it out of “love” for the child…not for any other reason. It has been stated that the biological parents detest these interim caretakers but truth be known, many bio parents have a good relationship with their child’s foster caretakers and, as a result, are able to enlist their help when trying to reclaim their children. Unfortunately, as with any profession, it is the “poor” foster caretakers that get the media coverage and that makes for a bad name for them all. You never hear about the “good” and truly “caring” ones. You never hear about the successes. And that is because DCFS/CPS/DSS wants it that way.

The average, everyday citizen does not believe that a government agency that is charged with the protection of children and helping families can be so deceitful and corrupt. It often takes months or even years of being on the “business end” of these “dirty tricks” to finally realize that the DCFS/CPS/DSS agent is NOT their friend. Perhaps this information will help you become informed sooner and allow you to protect yourself before damage can be done to your family.

This material is NOT a substitute for good legal advice. You DO need a GOOD, dedicated attorney in order to win. If you expect to have a chance of winning against the system then you and your attorney MUST fight like you have never fought before. Pull out all the stops…Your future and your “children’s” future depends on it.

THIS MATERIAL IS NOT SPECIFIC LEGAL ADVICE FOR YOUR CASE. IT IS ONLY GENERAL INFORMATION WHICH MAY NOT APPLY TO EVERY CASE. REVIEW IT WITH YOUR ATTORNEY BEFORE YOU DECIDE ON A COURSE OF ACTION IN DEALING
WITH DCFS/CPS/DSS. I WILL NOT BE LIABLE FOR ANY PROBLEMS YOU MAY CAUSE BY NOT GETTING LEGAL ADVICE.(Hession/Crowell 2001)
Dirty Trick
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DIRTY TRICK #1
DCFS/CPS/DSS will PRETEND to help you, when in actuality they are gathering evidence against you.

· Beware of these tactics and

· Don’t give them the ammunition to use against you.

Some DCFS/CPS/DSS agents DO want to help you and the families they serve, and some don’t. You can believe that the system as a whole is on the negative side of this coin. It is estimated that Child Protective Services takes about 25% of the children of the families it services. Most Child Protective Services agents don’t know or respect the restrictions in the law against taking children. The sad fact here is that no one holds them accountable. Even the judges have not been able to reign them in, so these “outlaws” do as they please and not what the law allows or requires.

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DIRTY TRICK #2
DCFS/CPS/DSS will try to get you to talk. In plain English, SHUT UP! EVERYTHING you say will be twisted and used against you in a court of law. Be pleasant but firm. Don’t fall into their trap. They will be sugar sweet in the interviews and they will “bait” you into making comments that they can twist and turn into lies. If you say you argue with your husband, then they will twist your words in their report to read…”Husband is verbally abusive.” If you say you discipline your child by spanking or “popping them on the behind”, the report will say “Parents physically abuse children.” If you tell them you are depressed, the report will read, “Parent has mental health issues.” If they require you to go to therapy DO NOT GO TO ONE RECOMMENDED BY THEM…You can bet the therapist will break the “patient/therapist confidentiality” rule and report back to DCFS everything they ask for. Don’t go to a therapist unless you are dead sure that the therapist “hates” DCFS/CPS/DSS. Just remember…YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO REMAIN SILENT…DO SO AND PROTECT YOURSELF.

The sad part here is the “good social workers” who suffer because of the “bad “ ones…And there ARE some good, honest ones out there. Unfortunately, just as bad foster parents are classed with the good ones, good social workers are classed with the renegades. Those “good” workers out there that really do care spend their time fighting a system that they know to be “not” in the Best Interest of the Child. They really do want to help but their hands are tied and they often are threatened with the loss of their job if they “dare” intervene in your behalf or attempt to “buck” the system. In the long run, they find that although their hearts are in the right place, there is very little that they can do to help you when allegations are filed.

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DIRTY TRICK #3
There are those workers in DCFS/CPS/DSS that will abuse and traumatize you and your children themselves. Those caretakers who have had children “yanked” out of their home by an unscrupulous DCFS/CPS/DSS agent or have been shoved out of the way as they enter to talk to the children privately know the indignity of the process. What kind of monsters are these workers, you may wonder? The answer is…THEY are the abusers, at least by their own definition. It is agreed that genuine abuse does occur in foster facilities and they should be criminally prosecuted and jailed. But more often than not, the DCFS/CPS/DSS agent’s definition of abuse is some manufactured perversion of their own making, rather than real abuse. If you crumble and give into them then they are happy but if you stand strong and keep your dignity and independence then you become the enemy” and must be crushed.

Many Child Protective workers do not have children of their own ( and those that do often have children that are unmanageable, rude and disrespectful because of lax boundaries and consequences) and they don’t understand that families, biological and foster, go through some trying times once in awhile and need some room to work things out. This is especially true for those caretakers in the foster system because they take in these traumatized children with baggage so damaged and dysfunctional. The problems faced by these foster families are often monumental and the worst part is their hands are tied when it comes to dealing with them. To the caseworkers your methods, even though they are normal parenting skills that are accepted in the biological home, are cruel and inhumane. It is at these times these social workers will swoop in and commit their travesty of injustice. They will show you no mercy and they will give you no explanations. But they will take your children…screaming and crying to their cars and whisk them away, often never to be seen or heard from by you again. Remember…In this fantasy world FOSTER PARENTS HAVE NO RIGHTS! After facing the false allegation process foster parents leave the profession by the hundreds. Facts prove that 40,000 foster parents a year leave the profession. State and private social workers think nothing of destroying your life and then, after they have efficiently ruined your life the agents actually wonder why you don’t want to warm up to them and work with them. It’s as though they socked you in the eye and then wonder why it turned black.

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DIRTY TRICK #4
The DCFS/CPS/DSS will try to get one parent to say incriminating things about the other and if this doesn’t happen then they will twist and turn your words to fit their case. This is one of their favorite dirty tricks. When they get a report of an allegation the first thing they do is to rush in and take the children often stating that this is an emergency and that they are doing this in the “best interest of the children.” They won’t tell you anything and leave you standing and scratching your head and wondering in a panic. If the allegation is against one caretaker they will try to get the other one to make damaging statements which they will in turn use to build their case with lies. If you keep quiet they will not be able to get you to succumb to their subversive tactics. If you bend to their demands and “friendly requests” these disclosures will be the beginning of the end and will form the basis for the DCFS case against you. Some favorite tricks are to convince one partner that they need a “restraining order” against the other. Or that IF the partner would kick the other out of the house, then the children “might” be returned…and the clincher is (as in our case)…IF one partner will divorce the other then DCFS will return the child(ren). DON’T BELIEVE THEM…Does it even make sense to break up a loving family and a successful marriage of a number of years just to please the DCFS/CPS/DSS. Isn’t it more important to have a secure, loving, functioning family unit for these children than to operate dysfunctional in order to meet DCFS/CPS/DSS standards? If your marriage is solid and you want to keep it that way, present a united front to DCFS. Don’t give into their coercive tactics.

DIRTY TRICK # 5
The DCFS/CPS/DSS will try to get your children to make damaging disclosures about you using manipulation, coercion and fear. They will use their “divide and conquer” mode of investigation keeping the children and the parents separated with little or no contact allowed between them. The tactics they use here are what qualifies them as “abusers.” They will manipulate your frightened children into saying almost anything they want to hear. The tactics used by these workers appear to be akin to those used by interrogators in war. These strategies work with children because they are frightened, traumatized, and are taken out of the security of a loving home that they have come to feel needed and wanted in. The tactic of “recovered memory” is quite useful when you and your children are separated. If it is only one disgruntled child in the home that might have brought the allegation, the others suffer by the forced removal and separation. Even when the other children deny any wrongdoing, DCFS workers keep hammering at them until they get the damaging statements that will verify their reports to make their cases stronger. The saddest part is when the accusing child recants and admits to lying, the agents refuse to believe them because now they are at risk of being held liable for their hasty, ineffective investigation of the facts. DCFS/CPS/DSS will “always” believe a child’s disclosures but they will “never” believe his denials.

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DIRTY TRICK #6
DCFS/CPS/DSS will always try to make sure that you do not get any help on the legal issues surrounding your case. They will tell you that you don’t need an attorney to deal with this problem and if they offer to help you get one I would be sure to decline. GET AN ATTORNEY ON YOUR OWN…ONE THAT HATES DCFS/CPS/DSS. They are few and far between but they are out there. Unfortunately the major problem here is usually “limited finances.” In the majority of the cases foster caretakers are rarely in a position to afford these expensive attorneys. If they are like we were, you beg, borrow and steal whatever funds you can to fight the injustice of the system and even then, that is not enough.

You will request copies of your case files and copies of the allegations but the workers will tell you that this is not allowed. DON’T BELIEVE THEM! DEMAND to be provided with these records. THIS IS YOUR RIGHT! If you are able you can go onto the Internet and search. You can find the needed legal documents to file to get these records…And you can do this on your own. Many of these forms can be found on the CPS WATCH site. Simply type in http://www.cpswatch.com (site no longer available: See Webmaster Note for further information) and then go to the “legal forms” section. Cheryl Barnes has done a great job of putting together a site to assist biological parents to fight for their children. Many of these legal forms can be used by the foster parents in their fight against the system. You can also go to the local law library for information. Many foster caretakers who face these allegations probably do not need an attorney but when you do you should not hesitate to seek out a good one. An attorney may be needed in the following instances…(Kulp 1993)

· Defend you against a specific charge

· Communicate for you

· Gain protection for the children in your care

· Gain protection for your spouse

· Gain access to your records

· Have your records corrected or destroyed

· Supply legal advice or counsel

Most foster caretakers do not have the finances to hire a “top of the line” attorney so they settle for the next best thing or try to “go it on their own”. Do NOT get an attorney that will “climb in bed” with the department. Inadvertently we did this and it was a disaster. We could not convince this man to see things the way we did and could not convince him to proceed the way we wanted him to proceed. You know you have the wrong attorney if you are told to cooperate with DCFS. You have the wrong attorney if you see him being “chummy” with the social workers or opposing attorneys. You know you have the wrong attorney when you cannot get him to see YOUR side and fight the way you want him to.

The right attorney will have COURAGE, will believe in the rights of the individual against the state, will respect constitutional restraint on government, will hate the subversive tactics used by DCFS and will openly stand up to every unlawful and biased ruling of a judge without fear. The right attorney will fight the fight because he holds no respect for the open deception presented by DCFS/CPS/DSS workers. If you secure two attorneys make certain that they agree to work together and not try to undermine the work of the other.

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DIRTY TRICK #7
After DCFS/CPS/DSS barges in and takes your children…be they biological or foster…the court is required to give you a hearing within a reasonable length of time. For biological parents it is 72 hours…For foster parents it should be the same length of time but it rarely is. For you see, foster caretakers have NO RIGHTS in the eyes of DCFS. Even in the biological family DCFS rarely meets their obligation on this time constraint on keeping the children. Once the children are removed from the foster caretakers it is “rare” that they ever are returned. DCFS finds one reason after another to keep them apart and once out of the home for a month or two DCFS claims that the “bond has been broken” and they will not return the children. The 72 hours allotted for the “hearing” includes weekends, (and Friday is their favorite time to snatch these children) so it makes it difficult for you to take any action immediately. By rights you should have this hearing scheduled by Monday but this rarely happens. The DCFS Dirty Tricks machine usually goes into overdrive at these hearings, because if, by some quirk of fate you happen to win, they have to rectify things and give your children back and this is simply NOT within their guidelines.

The first tactic of DCFS is to “delay” the hearing as long as possible. IF you are a foster caretaker chances are you will not even get the chance at a hearing unless you pursue it with a vengeance. The courts often comply and extend the hearing far past the date required by law. But think of it this way…This gives YOU more time to prepare your case against DCFS too…So make good use of this “gift.” If you get an attorney and he favors DCFS he will try to get you to waive the 72-hour hearing. DO NOT DO IT, unless you are truly guilty of their claims. You must go on record as opposing DCFS/CPS/DSS for taking your kids. If you don’t, even though they tell you that you have NO RIGHTS, it will go against you later when you are fighting to have them returned. The “divide and conquer” tactic works well at these hearings as DCFS will try to get the two parties (you and your husband) fighting and if they succeed then they have won. Do NOT accommodate them. Keep your cool. Do all you can to become informed and use their tactics against them. Remember, these tricks can be used both ways if you are knowledgeable. In our case, I discovered this too late.

To keep custody of the children they take DCFS must prove that they have made reasonable efforts to protect the children in the foster care situation. This is rarely the case so they resort to compromising, deceitful tactics. They must prove that the child is suffering from serious abuse or neglect or is in immediate danger of such. This means wounds, broken bones, burns, starvation, etc. If they cannot prove it they will fabricate a case to match their suspicions. They must also prove the removal continues to be necessary to protect the child from serious neglect or abuse and that is where more fabrications enter the picture. Once they realize that they have acted too hastily, that is when the fight turns nasty and dirty. If the DCFS workers cannot prove their case they stand to face embarrassment for wrongly removing a child. Once they have taken action they MUST make their case stand at all costs. In our case, there was no reasonable way that the social workers could have had any valid records as to what went on at our home because they RARELY, if ever, came to our home to visit and inspect as they should have. In the five years we had our daughter, CPS workers never came to our home as required (they came only once in the beginning). And the State licensing workers NEVER came to inspect for license renewal either. The license was simply sent to us in the mail. Then, when an allegation was made they fabricated case records and ruined our lives.

In our case everything that we did to build our foster daughter’s self esteem and ALL her successes were held against us as “abuse.” The claim of CPS agents was that we “coerced” her into taking part in the varied activities (4-H, Equestrian competitions, vocal presentations with a local girls choir, School Sports, school academic competitions such as Spelling Bee Team, Math Counts Team, Speech Team), Pre Teen America, etc.) and “forced” her to win the various competitions that she participated in. It was their contention that I did all these things “for my own benefit” and to make myself “feel important.” I contend that you can force a child into participating but you CANNOT force them to “win.” Our daughter, whose parent’s rights had been terminated four years earlier, was never in danger of any kind. She was always given every opportunity to succeed and develop a healthy, complete self-image. We had planned to adopt her (she was 13 now and we’d had her since the age of 8). We were nearing the final adoption stage when our daughter and CPS workers brought false allegations (or at least that is what the State and the social workers contend) and the California CPS and Nevada DCFS stepped in and claimed her for their very own. All communication was cut off between us and she never really knew how hard we fought to have her returned to us. Why in the world would they allow their “meal ticket” to escape when they could remain “in control” and receive federal funds for another five years while she remained in the system and bounced around from foster home to foster home with no security or attachments?

Of course, had we known then what we know now about RAD…Radical Attachment Disorder…We would have been better prepared to deal with what came our way. But like they say…hindsight is better than foresight! Remember, your best defense and chance to protect yourself is a well informed, well defined offense…So do yourself a favor and educate yourself before it’s too late.

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DIRTY TRICK #8
The DCFS agent will try to get into your home to do an assessment but will use any evidence gathered there against you. They will try every trick in the book to gain entrance to your home but if you are smart you will block their efforts. They will try many times but you must be consistent in your refusal to admit them. You probably think that you cannot keep them out…I know I thought that…But you can and should exercise your RIGHTS as an American citizen and cite the CONSTITUTION as your source. Local law may be written to allow them to gain access to your home without a warrant, but the Constitution, which is over the local law claims priority here. In the Western States the Federal 9th Circuit Court of Appeals has ruled that DCFS agents MUST have a written warrant to enter when it is not an emergency. The way the agents get around this is to claim that there “IS” an emergency and they use this tactic very effectively.

Everyone, even the lowly “foster parent” has the right to freedom from illegal searches and seizures of his person, his home, his personal papers and all his possessions. It is unfortunate but the courts frequently turn a “blind eye” to the wording of our Constitution contending that the “best interest of the child” overrides the law. Do your best to assert yourself in these instances and refuse the agents entry into your home. Of course there are certainly instances where this is an impossible task, but do everything you can to protect yourself here.

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DIRTY TRICK #9
The DCFS has a network of “mandated reporters” everywhere. All parents…biological, adoptive AND foster…need to be aware and on guard at all times. These “mandated reporters” are doctors, nurses, teachers, counselors, therapists, dentists, chiropractors, day care workers, etc. that are “trained” by CPS instructors on what to look for and how to go about reporting suspected abuse. They are told in their training that if they even “suspect” that some sort of abuse has occurred, then it is their job to report it. They need to report it, “just in case!” They are told if they don’t they can be prosecuted and perhaps even lose their job. I know this to be true because I was a teacher at one time and I underwent this training yearly. The last time that I attended one of these sessions I had already had adverse dealings with CPS so I stood up and challenged the presenter. I believe that this was the “beginning of the end” for me, as less than a year later the California States attorney for CPS saw to it that he had informed my district superintendent of “the States suspicions”, however unproven and eventually dropped, and I lost my teaching job of nearly forty years.

There are other programs in the schools that are teaching our children to be “reporters” of adverse circumstances within the home…Things like “Kids on the Block” and the Wild Iris Program (other programs go by other names) that comes into the school each year and teaches the children “good touch”…”bad touch.” In a way, I think this is probably a good idea because many parents DON’T teach their children these things…but on the other hand, these same people encourage your child to come and talk privately with them and you never know what is said in these private sessions. Even the teachers don’t know. It is mandated that parents be notified when these special sessions will occur in their child’s class and are asked to sign a slip IF they don’t want their child to take part. In my personal experience it is rare that a parent refuses this instruction for their child, even though that is the RIGHT of every parent to do. I suggest you as a parent exercise your right to refuse this training for your children and take the responsibility to instruct your children yourself in these matters.

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DIRTY TRICK #10
When Child Protective Services takes your children they will do everything they can to keep them…be they biological or foster children already in the system. If they are foster children being moved from one home to another this is just one more disruption in the child’s life and one more reason for the children to add insecurity to their baggage. Once foster children are removed from a home they are not often returned. Social workers dilly-dally around and give one excuse after another to keep the children and these foster caretakers apart for an extended length of time. During this time they allow “no contact” between you and the children so it is natural that the children feel rejected and that you don’t care about them any longer. Then the caseworkers tell you that the child has formed a bond with the new foster caretakers and that your bond has been broken, so they have decided not to return the children to your home.

DCFS/CPS/DSS can make a “ton of money” by keeping these children in the system as long as they can. Children whose parents rights have been terminated and have settled into a structured, secure life in a foster home are offered for adoption and quite often it is the foster caretakers who apply to adopt them. More often than not, this is when difficulties occur because the system stands to lose money once these children are adopted out. As long as they have these children in “captivity” they can leverage large amounts of state and federal cash from a number of different programs. Now, this author fully realizes that there are definitely those children out there that need the services of the Child Protective Services due to truly coming from an abusive, dangerous situation, but this is not always the case. Those children who truly need these services should receive any and all protection afforded them and they are the ones who need a new home and a loving family, but social services even fights to deny them this right. Frequently it is the foster/adopt family that faces these “false allegation” difficulties because the system fully realizes that once these children are adopted out of the system they will lose major funding and this could mean a loss of jobs or programs or worse. It has been documented that a truly needy child in the system can earn the system up to $250,000 a year in government money. Now answer me this…Who in their right mind would give up easy cash such as this?

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DIRTY TRICK #11
In their efforts to build a case against you DCFS/CPS/DSS will often try to get you to sign waivers and documents and reconstructive case plans for changing the way you do things. In this way they coerce you into “doing things their way” and try to make you believe that if you sign that you are “guilty” of whatever they dream up then you have a chance to have your children returned to your home. DON’T BELIEVE THEM! This is simply one of their sneaky tactics to get you to succumb to their corruption. It is a multi-page document that has been constructed of lies and untruths in an effort to get you to admit to your guilt. It keeps you busy hoping that your children will be returned because you know you have done nothing wrong and have nothing to fear but this never happens without a major fight. The DCFS agents will exert much pressure for you to sign these plans and waivers and will tell you if you sign them you can get your children back sooner. DON’T SIGN ANYTHING until you have consulted a reliable counsel. Simply tell them that you must show this document to your attorney and get his permission to sign it. This can create substantial delay. If you sign anything then remember you are admitting to something you most likely did not do and now DCFS has you by the nose.

Once allegations are filed a favorite ploy of DCFS is to require you to attend therapy sessions WITH A THERAPIST OF THEIR CHOICE. Don’t do it! If you must attend therapy, search out a therapist that is NOT part of the system and one who “hates” DCFS/CPS/DSS. If you go to one selected by them, despite the patient/therapist confidentiality rule, they have access to all the information needed to build their case against you. On your own try to follow as many of the stipulations in the plan as you can…i.e. attend parenting classes, obtain therapy, drug tests, etc. Have your own report ready to give to them that shows you are honest and stable and NOT what they claim you to be.

DIRTY TRICK #12
The Department of Child and Family Services will attempt to withhold key records that you need to make your case even though they are required by law to give them to you. As in our case, when I requested our case files I was told that these could only be gained by securing a “court order.” In my naivety I believed this meant I had to hire an attorney and since we did not have the money to do so, I thought this meant we had no way to get the records. Too late I discovered that I could have petitioned the court myself to get these records. Even when I finally hired an attorney and tried to fight them, the attorney I hired did not get all the case records for me to review and use against them. Being UNINFORMED is what beat me…DON’T LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOU!

It is a known fact that DCFS/CPS/DSS plays games with their records. They are known to alter and falsify them in order to make you look bad or to make themselves look efficient. They conveniently ‘lose’ the ones that would be most helpful to you. They withhold or delay giving you records when you request them so they can keep important information out of your view. When they do give you copies of the records they black out key parts so you cannot see their dirty tricks or the lies that they have posted in the records. DCFS keeps all kinds of records…Don’t let them tell you anything different. If they think you don’t know about something then they will conveniently just not mention it to you. It is important that you do everything possible to familiarize yourself with everything that you can so you can ask for whatever you need. Insist on getting EVERY scrap of paper. There is one form that the average lay person like us is not aware of…It is the secret 29C form where the caseworker has often perjured himself/herself about the reason they took the children in the first place. They make absolutely amazing statements on paper when they think you will never see them, so be diligent and obtain everything that you can to help your case.

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DIRTY TRICK #13
Once the investigation is completed the DCFS/CPS/DSS will allow you to challenge their findings of abuse. However, it is their OWN agents that do the review and call it a “Fair Hearing.” There is absolutely NOTHING FAIR about it. They literally “stack the deck” in their favor right on down to selecting/rejecting the “judge” to hear the case. In our case, we were dealing with two states so ours was more complicated than most others. What one state said the other backed up but we never quite knew just who we were dealing with. We figured that since our daughter was now back in the Nevada system then we needed to deal with them and get them out of the way. This took over a year and NEVER once were we told that we could request a “Fair Hearing.” All we were ever told was that we “had no more interest in this child’s life” and we were now “out of the picture.” The statement by the social workers was to “leave her alone and let her get on with her life.” Ironically, we were only one week away from the final meeting with the State adoption people because we were in the process of adopting her and still they said we had “no further interest” in this child’s life. They severed ALL contact between us and our daughter. She did try to contact us but once the system and the current foster parents found out they put a stop to her calls. We wrote to our congressmen, senators and even the Nevada governor. It was finally a local Nevada State Congressman who finally was able to arrange a “hearing” for us and this finally occurred ten months AFTER she was removed from our home. We hired an attorney, who we found out too late was “pro” CPS, and drove over eight hours to get to the “Fair Hearing”, only to be “refused” entrance. You can bet that Nevada had their quota of social workers there…And we had supporting family members who had driven long distances to be with us…But none of us were allowed into the hearing room. Only our attorney who eventually “sold us down the river.” When I say that they “stack the deck” in their favor I’m not joking. The “Fair Hearing” is conducted by a “magistrate” or a DCFS attorney…NOT a judge. If one who does not look favorably upon DCFS is assigned then the workers submit a refusal and request another, and another until they receive one who will “lean their way” at the hearing. At the beginning of the hearing the attorney puts on the record that she/he is neutral and has no interest in the outcome but this is a “big joke.” Even though you know you have not done anything wrong, and you believe that the truth will come out at the hearing, nothing could be further from the truth. At the first “Fair Hearing” you are almost always found to be “guilty.” It is then that you can appeal to a higher court and it is on record that you disagree. Make certain that you get every bit of evidence you want heard submitted at this hearing because if you don’t you will NOT be able to get it entered later.

DIRTY TRICK #14
You will find out that DCFS/CPS/DSS will rarely let the foster parents visit the children once they are taken. If you are allowed to visit you cannot show them any affection. They do everything in their power to keep you apart. If you are allowed visitation then you are watched like a hawk and will not be allowed to get too friendly. DCFS fills the children’s heads with all kinds of negative things prior to these visits…even telling them that they will never go back “home” again and that you don’t care about them any more, that is why you have not contacted them.

If you are lucky enough to obtain a visit or two, make sure you reassure them that you still love them and are fighting to get them back home, if that is what they want. If you overstep the boundaries set by DCFS at these visitations they will terminate the visits early and try to make it more difficult for future visits.

Another “dirty trick” they pull is to file new abuse allegations prior to you going to court to increase your visitation time with the children. In our case our California hearing was delayed three times and each time…two weeks prior to the planned hearing…I received an amended list of allegations. By the time the hearing finally arrived the allegations had grown from four to twenty three. This deception simply gives them more ammunition to say “NO” because they have found more evidence of abuse, even though it may be false information that they have created.

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DIRTY TRICK #15
It is true that you have the right to challenge DCFS/CPS/DSS findings of abuse at a “Fair Hearing” but it is not uncommon for the department to delay these challenges for a year or more. This is one of their dirtiest tricks and the long delay is really detrimental to your case. This trick is what deprives you of “due process.” What is “due process” you ask? It is the right to have your case heard in a “timely” manner, that you get the legal protections provided by the state and federal constitutions and that you are innocent until you are proven guilty. DCFS gives you NONE of these things. Foster parents do NOT have the right to “due process.” You can fight all you want at the pre trial hearings, if you are lucky enough to secure them, but the ‘judge’ will never let you present your side in full.

DIRTY TRICK #16
It has been proven that if DCFS cannot get you for abuse or neglect it will get you for what they call “safety issues.” That is you did nothing to prevent abuse to the children by your partner. In other words, “guilt by association.” DCFS calls it neglect by not keeping the child safe from a perpetrator. It doesn’t matter that no abuse ever occurred and that the allegation is entirely false, you are labeled an ‘enabler’ and they demand that you recognize the other parent as an abusive caretaker. This particular ‘dirty trick’ is very hard to oppose because it is considered a ‘thought crime,’ rather than actual abuse or neglect. BE AWARE!…Thinking incorrectly is now considered abuse or neglect. Stand together and present a ‘united’ front whenever dealing with DCFS/DPS/DSS. When will this nonsense ever end?

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IN THE END

I, the author, fully realize that all of the above sounds ludicrous and cynical but it is the truth. DCFS will deny these things ever happen. There is the rare and honest social worker who will attest to these happenings as true, and that is the worker who finds herself/himself looking for work somewhere else. Sometimes the truth is hard to accept but believe that these things really DO happen and DCFS/CPS/DSS is as corrupt as shown here. The system is ‘evil’ and the courts are helpless in the face of this DCFS power OR they simply agree with it because they side with the system. AS foster parents accused of wrongdoing YOU need to know how to fight back. And that is the purpose of this packet of information. Having experienced the injustice and corruption of the Department of Social Services and their corrupt attorneys, I hope the information that you find here will help you be more successful than I was in defending our daughter and having her returned to a loving, caring home and parents.

GOOD LUCK,

Nancee Crowell

CA. State Director for NFPCAR

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About Yvonne Mason Sewell

Background:  The eldest of five children, Yvonne was born May 17, 1951 in Atlanta, Georgia. Raised in East Point, Georgia, she moved to Jackson County, Ga. until 2006 then moved to Port St. Lucie, Florida where she currently makes her home.  Licensed bounty hunter for the state of Georgia. Education:  After a 34 year absence, returned to college in 2004. Graduated with honors in Criminal Justice with an Associate’s degree from Lanier Technical College in 2006. Awards:  Nominated for the prestigious GOAL award in 2005 which encompasses all of the technical colleges. This award is based not only on excellence in academics but also leadership, positive attitude and the willingness to excel in one’s major. Affiliations:  Beta Sigma Phi Sorority  Member of The Florida Writer’s Association – Group Leader for St Lucie County The Dream:  Since learning to write at the age of five, Yvonne has wanted to be an author. She wrote her first novel Stan’s Story beginning in 1974 and completed it in 2006. Publication seemed impossible as rejections grew to 10 years. Determined, she continued adding to the story until her dream came true in 2006. The Inspiration:  Yvonne’s brother Stan has been her inspiration and hero in every facet of her life. He was stricken with Encephalitis at the tender age of nine months. He has defied every roadblock placed in his way and has been the driving force in every one of her accomplishments. He is the one who taught her never to give up The Author: Yvonne is currently the author of several novels, including:  Stan’s Story- the true story of her brother’s accomplishments, it has been compared to the style of Capote, and is currently being rewritten with new information for re-release.  Tangled Minds - a riveting story about a young girl’s bad decision and how it taints everyone’s life around her yet still manages to show that hope is always possible. This novel has been compared to the writing of Steinbeck and is currently being written as a screenplay. This novel will be re-released by Kerlak Publishing in 2009  Brilliant Insanity – released by Kerlak Publishing October 2008  Silent Scream – Released by Lulu.com October 2008- Slated to be made into a movie Yvonne’s Philosophy in Life - “Pay it Forward”: “In this life we all have been helped by others to attain our dreams and goals. We cannot pay it back but what we can do is ‘pay it forward’. It is a simple
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  2. Ashish says:

    how can i find a good attorney in NY who hates CPS / ACS , I found your article great and informative . I need more advice and suggestions

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    • Bev says:

      I am not sure where you at with this but Google ‘how to fight cps and win’.

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    • Sheila Kennedy says:

      I have been through it with DFACS in SC and now my girls are going through it in Georgia with their own children. You must remember that the Government has give these people rein to do what ever they want. It is so unfair and so true. I had a chance for a major lawsuit in SC, but my children had been through enough, they were not going through no more. This organization gets a hold of an accuation, true or false, they believe beyond a shadow of a doubt. 1 1/2 years later part of my grandchildren are beginning to return home. The lawyer tells me “they are scared of you.” Really? They have tried throwing me under the bus, trying their best to cost me my career in Elementary Teaching. By the grace of God, that will not happen. It is best not to volunteer information. Once in a blue moon you will find a good court appointed attorney; however, it is best to hire your own, because if they work for the state, they for the state. I even had the judge tell me in the court room when I had to defend myself, while my daughter was fighting for her children, “DFACS has it now.” These words burn in my soul. Anyway other trick, write the Mayor of your state, and the First Lady. I wrote Hillary Clinton to get mine back because she was in office at the time. I wrote her about my grandchildren, and they are beginning to come home. Next year is election year if you catch my drift. Bottom line, You need help outside the county your fighting; most cases the state. I am on face book if you want to friend me and talk more, I will gladly do so. I do wish you all the best, because no child deserves what DFACS dishes out, and what is really wrong is most lawyers and judges side with DFACS. Thank you for reading.
      Sheila Kennedy

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      • tanya kosabutsi says:

        Ms. Sheila,
        I thank you for sharing your courageous journey. I am also going through something similar and I have found that there is little support in trying to get my son back. I have contacted the state director and the governor to help me change the placement of my case-worker, but I have yet to hear from anyone. Also, I have asked my attorney to represent me in this particular case and he is beyond timid. I’m afraid that I’m dealing with the good ol’e boys concerning the legal system and the favors that are commanded from them. Please, if you could, refer me to a reputable attorney who will fight for me and my son’s rights. I knew the day I was arrested that this would be an uphill battle. Thank you for any advice.

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      • Sonya says:

        To Tanya Kosabutsi I’VE READ YOUR ARTICLE ABOUT CPS DCFS AND WOULD LIKE TO KNOW WHAT TYPE OF ATTORNEY YOU HIRED EVERY ONE I’VE CALLED SEEMS TO BE AFRAID TO EVEN HEAR MY CASE I’VE BEEN BATTLING AND FIGHTING THIS DCFS CASE FOR 4 YEARS NOW CAN ANYONE PLEASE HELP ME I CAN BE CONTACTED VIA EMAIL AT lasonyasmith34@gmail or phn # 312-848-8454 Thanks I KNOW I HAVE A LAWSUIT OR CIVIL SUIT AGAINST DCFS WITH SEVERAL OF MY RIGHTS BEING VIOLATED ALONG WITH MY CHILDREN’S RIGHTS BEING VIOLATED AS WELL I NEED TO SPEAK TO A ATTORNEY THAT HANDLES CIVIL LAWSUITS AGAINST DCFS AS WELL IF ANYONE CAN HELP PLEASE FEEL FREE TO LEAVE A MSG OR CALL THANKS I’M IN DESPERATE NEED OF HELP

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      • Clifton hugger jr says:

        They’ve taken 3 of my kids please help how do i get them back

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    • everything told here is so very true, even worse ! if my story was to come out, some heads would turn,,,
      i wish i could sue them !

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  3. R. says:

    Because of suspicions of abuse on the part of her friend and her friend’s baby, my sister’s 14-year-old son faced the possibility of foster care. (Her friend’s 8- and 6-year-old, as well as the baby, are in foster care.) I am thankful for this information, as I have used it to help my sister. She is looking into getting herself an attorney that will help her. The CPS worker we’ve dealt with so far keeps bringing my nephew’s hopes up: telling him he could come home that weekend, which turned into a week, which has turned into another week. Although my nephew annoys me to no end, I hope he and his mom can win the war against CPS.

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  4. R. says:

    I forgot to add that my mom and I took the 14-year-old in so he wouldn’t go into foster care.

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  5. grams says:

    I am a grandma who has been a victim of the CPS corruption! ALL of the dirty tricks have been used against me but the counselling that they required me to attend. I got my own counsellor and they then said after I gave them the report that I did not attend ( in court) . I am so very happy that the CPS case is closed and a new case is in family court ( NOW) . I have a court order against the mother for visits with my grandson. Not to many grandparents have grandparents rights. I DO! Persistance wins out! I

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    • cheernana says:

      I am currently trying to get coustody of my 9 year old granddaughter because my daughter has been abusing her. We have had her since December 22, 2015 , and our next hearing is March 14th. I just do not know what I am going to do if they place her back with her mother… She will not see her, speak to her or. Even look at her. Her therapist wants absolutely no contact with her mother but of course DSS is insisting, so the Judge granted an hour a week supervised in his chambers. That was a disaster ! I did file assault on a minor since DSS didn’t bother to notify the police. I am at my wits end with all this. I want my granddaughter safe, I do not want her back in that house to be beaten and cussed and terrorized. She will run away, she already said she will. I do not know what to do!

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  6. grams says:

    I am a grandmother who has been a victim of the CPS corruption. They drug me through 1 1/2 years of unnecesary court hearings and when the case was closed the judge could not make a ruling against a grandparent! So I could make my case and filed a motion for grandparent rights and WON the case. I have visits with my grandson , even after the mother refused my visits , we took her back to court and filed contempt charges. She should of gone to jail, but her lawyer bailed her out of trouble and I still got my visits back. I am so very happy to see my grandson again and be a part of his life again.This is so not fair to the child.

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    • grams says:

      grams :I am a grandmother who has been a victim of the CPS corruption. They drug me through 1 1/2 years of unnecesary court hearings and when the case was closed the judge could not make a ruling against a grandparent! So I could make my case and filed a motion for grandparent rights and WON the case. I have visits with my grandson , even after the mother refused my visits , we took her back to court and filed contempt charges. She should of gone to jail, but her lawyer bailed her out of trouble and I still got my visits back. I am so very happy to see my grandson again and be a part of his life again.This is so not fair to the child.

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  7. My daughter was only 2 yrs. old when she was yanked from the only people she trusted and loved. her mother, father, sister and brother. Then placed with someone she didn’t even know. This has ruined our lives. I will never have happiness again and neither do her siblings. I am so empty and I cant live without her. I cant live with the fact that she might think badly of me or that I didnt love her. CPS worker Trina Nuno pulled every dirty trick listed. I have so much anger and resentment for this woman who has the power to take my life from me. Now I dont even know where my baby is. Truthfully I want Trina Nuno and the rest of cps to go through what they put me through.

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    • tessa says:

      Christina, I hope things worked out for you and your family. The same thing happened to my daughter. Had I not be a witness to the complete and utter abuse of ‘authority’, I doubt I would have believed it. My heart goes out to all of the true victims of DCF abuse.

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  8. Kristle says:

    i was in that same boat…i missed so much of what was going on with my children including missing my son’s 1st birthday…its hurtful and causes a lot of harm for the children. every trick here was pulled by one worker or the other. They even split my kids up which hurt them even further. they denied me visitation. they even sent one of my children to live with her daddy. and he and his wife tell her all kinds of horrible things about me and my son’s father. the foster parents to my son and i are good friends now and since i have CPS back on my case, they have helped back me up more than once. E and S love all my children and we love them very much. I am currently in school for social work…someone somewhere has to stop this abuse of the parents. if i only help the families i come in contact with, then at least i will have helped someone.

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  9. 77127 says:

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  10. James says:

    They themselves are the biggest abusers of children and families in general as they gat a bonus for every child taken away and put into foster care

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    • kristle says:

      Too true James! I had three placed in the system twice! The only reason Igor them back was because my worker was fresh out of college and believes in family. She even has a child of her own!

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    • Jenny says:

      yes they do. And the state gets funds for every child adopted out or placed in foster care.

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  11. Tony ratkiewicz says:

    My family is going through the same exact situation you and your family have gone through I need a great attorney and any helpful information to help me get my 11 year old little girl home with her mother and father PLEASE HELP ITS ON 13 month on all ALLEGATIONS AND TREUNCY OF 26 days thxs to BCCYS OF BERKS PA

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    • Jim says:

      DHHS and CPS use even more dirty tricks to steal children. For instance in my case they used changing the worker after the one on the case failed to get a judges support. The old worker would tell the judge lies and after being told by the judge he didn’t buy there lies would then have the new worker continue the lies as if it happened. They even got the judge changed a few times till they got one who fell for all there lies and in the end I learned we do not live in a free country at all.

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  12. mrsdtx81 says:

    thank you for this blog it’s a big help my husband and I are fighting cps now to get our two kids back they are in foster care now I been doing my homework for the hearing coming up they are trying to take our rights off us we love our kids not giving up.

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  13. joann barnew says:

    I too have been deceived and tricked by the juvenile court system they I am a grandmother of 3 my daughter pass they took my grandchildren and then the man that I paid $300 for the garden God again at millenium and $300 for a court appointed attorney six hundred dollars in all I don’t know how I receive justice I was in the courtroom fighting against to fathers in the courtroom at the same time but with my privacy or with my civil rights that I get none my grandchildren taken away from me find $600 I went through two lawyers both of them with an with the accord which I didn’t know so I’m begging anyone out there if you can help me or direct me to a good lawyer what I can get this matter straight off the bench what I can get where I can see them for what they have done to my grandchildren and me I would truly truly appreciate any help that I can get

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  14. joann barnew says:

    I did send a post and I didn’t know that it was so many mistakes made in the post please forgive me this is my first time I ever post anything I do need help I have had lawyer after lawyer and it did me no good don’t know why you turned against me I have the papers here to show it I’m not computer savvy and I know nothing about the court system but I do know that I need help and it anybody help me I would truly be grateful

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  15. Bev says:

    Do a Google search “how to fight cps and win” The sooner you study up on this stuff the better.
    I/We never thought it could happen to us.

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  16. Bev says:

    Do a Google search “how to fight cps and win” The sooner you study up on this stuff the better.
    I/We never thought it could happen to us. This crazy thing will not let me post

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  17. natascha says:

    I am going thru a situation with CPS now. My husbands aunt called them and lied and said that we fight in front of the kids and this is not true. I have had only two interactions with the aunt ever and they were not in my home. Granted we had a rough patch and all we decided to work things out. She said the police has come to the complex several times n the reality it was twice and my son who is autistic is not being cared for. Just out and out spiteful. The CPS people came and wanted to come in my home. I refused and my kids have been gone with their grandma. She tried asking personal questions and I did not answer. They never left a name nor business card which tells me some shady business is going on. How do i fight this and does my kids have to cooperate because they have yet to come back.. Could at this point the case be dropped or what..

    Stressed in Texas

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    • Sheila Kennedy says:

      Normally if you think the case is dropped, it is because that is what these crooked people want you to believe. By the law in Georgia, your children have to be removed 3 times before they are gone for good. I would call and see if there is an open case, answer yes and no questions without detail, because the person that wrote this article is so very true. Everything you say, bad or good will be held against you. If ti is bad they run with it; if it is good they twist it. Good luck and My God Bless you and your family.

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  18. nikol says:

    My daughter was 8 days old when I had a CPS worker knock on my door. The nurse at the pediatricians office I used to go to called and reported that I was a danger to my. daughter because she was severely underweight, she also stated I was refusing visits to the pediatricians office itself. I was unaware of my rights and my case is still open. it has been 100 days today, and I was told that the case should be closed after 60 days. I was beggining to think that it would be closed but a whole month has passed since they contacted me and they have contacted my daughters grandparents on both sides. I am severely frightened that they are trying going to take her from me. What can I do???

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  19. doctor says:

    Can cps make my child mive with grandparents because i failed a u.a for marijuana.. An i was in california at the time i smiked an cannot prove that i have smoked or was ever under the influance in the presanse of my child ??

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  20. zaquana about mckay says:

    My daughter was taken because she was born into an open case that was actually closing they found out i was 8months pregnant but i had already surrender my rights to my mom for my son so the casewas suppose to be closing and they took my daughter now she is adopted by this lady and im trying to see how that is possible when she had nothing to do with the case please help i dont know what to do or where to start its been about 3years

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  21. sho says:

    Hi there. Im a mother of 2 who were scandalously ripped from my arms in october of 2013. Ive recently discovered my kids have been removed from and placed into a new foster home . the previous potential adoptive family gave up on my kids after almost a year of having them. So. As of today my visit for first time in 2 months has been cancelled.. And i was informed of thus news by the case aid who supervises our visits. Why was i not contacted by the social worker… Who knows. Please any suggestions. I miss my loves.

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  22. The Evil MCP says:

    Information like this is the reason a lot of abused children slip through the cracks. I know—I’m one of them. My mother told me all the horror stories, not unlike these, and I was so scared that I lied through my teeth about our home situation. I wish to this day that CPS had been able to do more for my family. But, no, my mother’s misguided love made her hide us from them.

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  23. Jenny says:

    DFaCs are monsters!! They used every one of those dirty tactics to take my sons even though I got them back. They tore my family apart and left us nearly destitute and with a mountain of debt just because the case worker wanted to make a name for herself. She told my then husband’s private counseller that we were both drunks and addicts, which I wasn’t and still am not. I worked hard, went to every court hearing, every class while my husband was driven insane and ended up in a mental hospital and other services for a year. I was accused of everything in the books towards my children, of which every bit of it was proven untrue. The courts finally settled on “emotional” issues that couldn’t be proved or disproved. they lied and told us our case was closed, for months they wouldn’t return our calls about the final closing of the case, then one day, out of the clear blue, they snached my kids from me at my councellors office. the social worker took my kids personal effects, diapers I’d sent, toys, clothes and left them in an empty DFACs office for weeks because it “wasn’t her problem”. I thought we were past all of this. It had been four years. My husband got better. But guess what/ they showed up at my doorstep again this morning and interrogated me, my husband, went to my kids school and traumatized them, embarrassed our family at the kids school and whoop whoop, my soon-to-be-ex-husband is already starting to fall apart. He’s been gone an hour to go to the store to buy gas. Will he come back? I don’t know. And all because of a nieghbour who mistook my childrens loud play as fighting and said she saw us hitting our child. we didn’t. My son got into a yellow jacket nest. My husband was swatting yellow jackets off of him. But now, NOW, my kids and I have to suffer through all this again.

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  24. S Langgin says:

    (Childless Mother)
    While reading this article it felt like you were staring right into my life. I’m done fighting now. For the childrens sake I waved a white flag so CPS would take the children put of foster care and place them permanently with my parents. Two years in foster care is a prison sentence for an 11 year old girl. I love my children. Life was hard. I never would have lost them if someone would have been willing to help us. God bless you for your story.

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  25. S Langgin says:

    (Childless Mother)
    Reading this article was as if you were watching everything that happened to my family. I am done fighting now. I waved the white flag so CPS would take the children put of foster care and permanently place them with family. Two years in foster care hoping and praying for something that would never happen is a long prison sentence for a 9 year old girl who loves her mommy. Stopping the fight was the ultimate love I have for her.
    God bless you for your story.

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  26. Shantay Ellis says:

    Texas CPS is the worst agency in the world. I cant ever understand how you can have a couple thats been married for 17 years and have 3 children and they fell on hard times and then CPS puts the with their grandmother instead of helping the parents get back on their feet. They lie in their reports, they make you look bad to world, they give the parents no credit for caring and supporting their children. The judges and mediators are just plain horrible people. They should shut the ageny down and do a full investigation on those corrupt judges, mediators, and cps workers. They have truly destroyed families, and have gained success in doing so, its time that some one shut them down.

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  27. susanbaize says:

    I need a lawyer so very bad to fight CP’s for my family?????? I live in gentryville, Indiana

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  28. Lasonya Smith says:

    Can Someone please contact me I need to speak with someone in regards to this article I can be reached via email at lasonyasmith34@gmail.com or phone at 312-847-8454 My rights has not been taken but dcfs has illegally removed my kids I believe I have a lawsuit against them but I don’t know where to begin they remived all my children ecept I’m in Chicago Illinois

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  29. Chris says:

    My daughter is in cps custody. She is with foster parents. Are the foster parents allowed to take pictures of her and send them to my cps caseworker? My caseworker them sent them to me all of this by text, and told me not to put them on Facebook. Is this ok? Did my caseworker or foster parents break the rules? And am I allowed to take pictures at my visit and put them on my Facebook? I have almost done everything in my family service plane. Pls help.. Thank you…

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  30. Nicole says:

    Thank you. Many of this has happened to me and I stand firm in what I believe in. Thank you.. I had to stop reading because I began to get upset so I will finish it later.

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  32. stefanie paulman says:

    My twins were taken merely four months ago and both me and my husband have complied with everything dogs has wanted us to do they have repeatedly lied to us I just want my kids home I have completely changed my life around going to church every time the doors are open etc. And dogs has gave us a lawyer to represent US as well as the two year old twins they are traumatizing my babies

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  33. James Currier says:

    Can anyone help me I had my child forefully taken 7 years ago had my rights to be a parent taken away and haven’t seen her for 7 years. She is now 16 and I just found out the scumbags who adopted her abused her and dhhs once again screwed up. What I need is to find out how I can get hold of my child as at 16 she has the right to come back to me. I am at a loss as to what I need to do to start the process. It is sick that DHHS and a corrupt court system allow abuses to both a parent and then a child it leaves scar that never heal.

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  34. Linda Lake says:

    I need a attorney who can get my granddaughters out of fostercare, I’ve been doing all I can for one full year now, please help jackson county mo

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  35. Rare Victor says:

    This article is all too true and sad. Texas CPS is notorious for their corrupt methods of “upholding the rights and fighting for the best welfare of children.” Each and every caseworker has their own opinion on the definition of their job description, the state’s idea of rights and welfare regarding children, and what exactly constitutes abuse and/or neglect.
    The truth is that they are taught to handle every allegation as though it is true until it’s proven false. So if random “concerned” citizen A claims that you hang your children by their toenails every night over a pit full of starving, rabid monsters, you better believe that CPS will have their own form of a starving rabid monster on your door step looking for their kindred monster pit within your home.
    They truly are monsters underneath a mask of false care, understanding and support. Do I believe that every caseworker goes into this field with the ill intent to destroy homes and the lives of the children they’ve sworn to protect? No. It’s possible that many do see cases so horrifying and detrimentally disturbing that they tend to view all parents as we have begun to view them. Which is, as stated in the aforementioned article, that each and every caseworker is corrupt, and vice versa they’ll have a contingency to view every parent as the same monstrosity of a person who was the “exception that proves the rule.” Or it is possible that during their own shadow training, the caseworker who came before them told them or showed them case files of children who suffered so horribly at the hands of their own “caregivers” and parents, that they go into their own first case with the influenced and warped view of parents in general. Whatever path they followed to their own journey of malevolent, power indulging, self righteous outcome, nothing justifies the lengths in which they go in order to meet their own definition, brand and form of justices and purposes.
    We could continue commenting on this forum until our government collapses, and our country self implodes, but the sad and pitiful truth is that it will not change the ever continuing ways of this particular branch of tax engulfing, family war provoking, orphan making, narcassistic, masochists who will continue to make their living by cashing the checks written by our government, backed by our taxes, and cashed, almost literally in the blood of our most recently born, innocent and undeserving families and children. Truth is that thier job, niegh, position of power, has the highest turnover rate of, not only all governmental branches, but of most American professions. I’d like to tell myself that this is due to their consciences eventually catching up to them, the sound multiple families torn asunder by their own doings screaming and crying in their nightmares, leaving them unable to sleep while a tornado of the faceless, nameless children they’ve illegally seized, forever swirl in their minds and memories until their is no room remaining in thier psychological torrent mess of minds in which they possess the capability to form rational thoughts or complete sentences. Unfortunately we know this not to be the case. As sure as we know that we would never, have never and will never intentionally inflict the abuse or neglect of which we’ve been accused on our own children for whom we possess such massive amounts of love for, the likes of which these people have obviously never been shown and clearly will never understand nor respect. If they are not emotional, cynical, heartless bastards going into this job then by the time they leave the position (within 3 years at the most) they will have morphed into the worst kind of this stereotype. Again, not worth dwelling over, harping on about or spending our lives advocating against. Because nothing we say will be heard, nothing we do will be noted, no movement we start will ever be completed, and no amount of parent’s tears shed, children’s blood spilled, lives ended will ever be enough to account for the sins, crimes and notrocities that these people commit. And with the law supporting the said actions, to assign accountability by acknowledging these outraged cries would be to accept and recognize the fact that blame and accountability lie, not only with the individual caseworkers, supervisors and supervisor’s supervisors, but with the very government who created this branch, who gave the orders, who okayed the methods. Basically the Cause of the few, costing the lives of many. Which has sadly been the silent motto, of the United States for centuries. The battle cry of “For the Greater Good” is sadly the final words to be inscribed on the tombstones of our children until the death of this nation can be assured.
    It all sounds too deep perhaps. Too much conspiracy, too little explanation. Well unless you have been in the position of these parents, like myself, this may sound like the extreme and paranoid rantings of a crazed woman.
    However if you, like the thousands of us, innocent and falsely accused parents, caregivers and individuals, are now facing the reality of a future absent of your beloved children, then you know that these statements that place the blame, not at the feet (the caseworkers) of the guilty, but statements that place the guilt in the very hands that wrote the laws, made the calls, and essentially signed the death certificates of our families, daughters and sons. The ultimate monster in the mask.
    I am the “Rare Victor”, the one who not only regained my children, but cleared my name and reputation, in a victory that cost more than $20,000, a rare 5 months of my life, and the very unusually “short” time of three weeks (but in actuality the longest three weeks of my life) away from my children. However, I say with absolute certainty that while I would never do it again, every penny spent and every tear shed and every worry and fear lived, was more than worth the final outcome. Which was more than a “rare victory”, it was a rare truth revealed, the moment that months of accosting my own investigations, digging, manipulating, pretending, while ultimately fighting, produced the outcome of seeing the monster behind the mask. While it took 5 months to come to that moment, it took less 24 hours to regain rightful custody of my children, less than 36 hours for the “price of my tongue” to drop into my checking account, and 48 hours to watch as those who I had blindly held solely responsible for my agony, were systematically gathered and crucified for thier actions.
    It cost me more over the past months to come to terms with the truth behind the misjustices that my family and children suffered through and to fully come to terms with the fact that I had sold out my own beliefs and doctrines of justice when I took that money in exchange for my life returned to normal and the “price of my tongue”.
    But know that while I may have sold out by swearing that I would never reveal who held the mask and the motives of those monsters, I never said that I would never reveal the steps I took to find the truth. To those who are desperate and to any who need to know and simply ask, I will never betray my own values again, I will openly and honestly tell you every step to follow to find the truth, because with this truth, the feet of the guilty will be chopped off in order to save the hands. And with the fall of the feet, the truth will set you, your children and your family free.
    If it all sounds too deep into a conspiracy theory to be real, remember that you once believed that your family would never be targeted, your children never taken. And remember that with accountability, the fall of the nation would be assured, so we can never fight hard enough, yell loud enough, or move fast enough to account those responsible, but by asking for help, and being desperate enough to follow the instructions, you will at the very least, regain the family that you’ve lost, and only for the, soon to be considered minor “price of your tongue.” Once you know yours, you will not judge me for mine. Because the ultimate price, is our family. For those of kindred pain, desperation and sorrow, just ask for direction and follow.

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  36. paty dueñas lopez says:

    Hi, my name is patricia dueñas Lopez. I have a letter I wrote about how DCFS works and what happened to us when we tried to adopt. We had a baby since she was born. Had her for 6 mos. The bio mom wanted us to keep the baby. They didn’t have a clue who the father was. We got a phone call from the adoption dept.from DCFS to finalize everything. We got a phone call again from DCFS that there was a father, who was in jail. He came out of the blue. They did the DNA turns out he was the father. His family wanted the baby. They gave that family preference.. the CSW supervisor threatened that she was going to take the baby, made us sound like we were the bad ones. We went to court, had a lawyer, but we lost. The father got out of jail 1 day before court. He got rehab, parenting classes and reunification! Reunification if he’s never had this baby.
    I want to publish the letter I wrote on how unfair DCFS is. My email is dcpaty99@yahoo.com.
    Thank you

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  37. Sabrina marks says:

    I need help I lost 6 on my kids to Cps and no one of the workers is abusing my daughter and they would not give her give them back to me I don’t know what to do with been 6 months I did everything they want it and there’s still nothing yet please if you have any answers anybody out there let me know what to do

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  38. Thank you for your encouraging words. CPS took my son 4 years ago this past thanksgiving, and my mental and emotional state is still a roller coaster ride when it comes to reliving my nightmare. All was based on law enforcement believing I was someone else and CPS had that person’s wrap sheet in my file basing their recommendations off of( of course this person has similar name and a list of drug charges and is going to be doing 3years and 8 months come December 12,, 2025 for drugs). I’ve been in search of a lawyer who will work with me, but no luck. Lack of finances. But I am keeping an optimistic outlook on it all and pray justice prevails and the ones at fault pay for their wrong doings. May Creator watch over our children and protect them from any and all harm. r

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  39. Jumana Sweis says:

    I live in California and was told by CPS in San Diego that Grand parents have no rights. Is this true? They placed my grand daughter with her great aunt because great aunt lives in the same city as mom. Now that reunification is almost over CPS is fighting me just to defend their position of choosing great aunt not talking to any regard the best interest of the child or that I’m her grand mother. If you know of any information that can help me, please let me know!

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  40. Veronica says:

    My grandkids were taken from the mom placed with family my son tried to get them in his custody but cps says he needs to attend drug class but he isn’t on drugs he met with cps and did drug test and past it but since the kids mom was dirty on drugs and my son didn’t even live in same household they want him to attend classes

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  41. Tina Gawronski says:

    If a Dcfs worker asks for copies of your current custody agreement, should you give it to them?

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  42. Joann Trejo says:

    My name JoAnn and am currently dealing with cps what they call an open case .Me and my husband and our 6 children were moving back to Nebraska happen to break down so money we had went towards a tow and mother in law gettting us . so with that said were kinda homeless my husband has a job now and the reason for there investagation is that my children did have winter jackets or any shoes they saw they had proper attire so then went on to say we were useing drugs I let her know i would not i have rights and am not a drug user. ihope someone can help me figure out what to do from here.

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  43. Connie says:

    They should stop damaging these children and families…my 5 grandchildren taken and all have had multiple issues since….they now see th per mom supervised one day a week and. Showing anger issues when having to leave her.
    They are put with different ones and the kids telling us they let them know that hey had a rotten life.
    It’s so very sad.
    Now grandmother her is told no visitations. …kids cry to see her and we have to lie and make up excuses so why are not hurt any longer.
    It’s a sad thong for these babies.
    They and we all want our babies back…
    C.p.s. is he ones doing the damaged and abuse to these kids. Them being near kids themselves and playing God with these little ones.
    Now 4 new schools in one year.
    It’s tearing every one apart.

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  44. sandra says:

    Hi i what to ask someone that nose about dcfs..the worker took my kids bcuz she said they where not in school wish it was trust nd then she say bcuz i come out dirty on the drug test but at all this i never had y kids when i was consumed it can someone help me plz

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  45. jackie says:

    Why is it that the biological parents have to go through this torture to lose their children, when there is no abuse if I knew what I have learned from this website when I lost my first case and my second case I would love to tell my experience with cps if that’s possible

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  46. Matute says:

    I was in the hospital given bornt to my 3 child when cps call ,they want setup appointment to talk to me ,I was scared ,the school in Newtown, ct called them because my son missed class , I thought was going to be easy because I have proof he had sick for few weeks and my mother had be in the hospital in ny for a month and I had when to N.Y. for few weeks,cps make my life he’ll they didn’t want to close my case ,didn’t want go away I give everything they ask for ,one of the workers scream to my son and i call the supervisor and the supervisor told me I couldn’t control my child ,my boy 3 years old and have special needs ,a week later I find a letter in the mail saying I was place in the list physical neglect, I was worried I thought I was going to loose my kids ,this was going for 5 months ,when I say to myself this is not getting better so in 8/20/15 I got in the car and drive back to N.Y. ,I living in shelter because I don’t have the money for rent,finally ct close the case and my name clear ,one of the reasons the clear my name was I record everyone of the visit ,record everyone of visit ,show the world what bullying look like ,stop bullying ofari Koram and miss Daniel Sanderson in danbury ct, I wouldn’t never go back to ct

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  47. Sarah Norris says:

    My children where taken from me almost two years ago. My oldest was given to her father who is a sex offender that goes to the methadone clinic, his wife, isn’t aloud around her children bc of crack. My 2 youngest ate with their aunt that promised us we would see them when the adoption was done. Nothing yet. What can I do? My house was raided, I wasn’t home, my fiance was and the ci got my children on the video.. My ex would let me see my oldest while I paid them. He owes me 9 grand in child support and won’t pay. What if anything can I do? Fayette county W.Va. Thanks

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  48. Sugar1605 says:

    My children were taken from me almost a year ago and placed with their father. They were taken from me because my ex claimed my daughter was sexually abused by my husband over 4 years ago, on one occasion. CPS did not give me a chance to help my daughter. She was abused 4 years ago, but not by my husband, my daughter knows that and my entire family knows that, and we have all tried to communicate it to CPS, but of course they substantiated the abuse against my husband. The criminal case was dropped after two weeks of investigating, it took CPS over two months to finalize their findings, and not a bit of investigating took place. So, I offered to leave my husband if they would let my children stay with me, but they refused. Instead they sent my children 2 hours away to their fathers home, that they did not visit or approve, my kids had to change schools and leave the only family they have ever really known. My parents tried to file for emergency custody because when we finally got to see the kids again 3 months later, they said they were being abused and neglected at their fathers. We tried to talk to the county that originally removed my children, but they couldn’t help us since the kids were no longer residents of that county. My parents filed in the county that they live in and were denied because my children were not residents of that county. So my parents filed in the county their father lives in, they were denied and the children were sent back to an abusive home because the cabinet worker said the kids were coached to say all the claims they had made. The judge appointed the children a GAL, worthless by the way, not once did she go see where my children were living or the conditions in which they were living in. That GAL doesn’t give two shits about the welfare of my children, all she cares about is her numbers Luckily the worker we have now seems to actually care about the kids. She claims she went on a home visit with the previous worker we had, the dumbass who sent the kids back in the first place, and she says she told him then that the kids needed to be removed from their fathers home, but he neglected to do so. That GAL the judge appointed wanted to charge me with “failure to protect”, so after about 6 months I gave in just so I could get the process started sooner of getting my kids back. Now the only thing standing in my way is a legal divorce, which I cant afford at the moment, but I know that even after that is done they will find some other reason not to return my kids. I have never been without my children and its killing me, not to mention the fact these heartless people have torn apart our happy family because I also have two stepchildren that are suffering in all this. But it took the school calling in on the kids father in order for them to be removed, placed in foster care where they are fixing to be moved again because my son is having issues being respectful. My 11 year old son wants to come home to his mother and his grandparents and aunts and cousins. My 8 year old daughter wants to come home to her family where she knows shes loved and not easily pushed away when her brother cant control his emotions. There is no reason why they shouldn’t give me my kids back,especially considering they were taken from me illegally, without a petition from a judge and no 72 hour hearing afterwards. I am fed up with this corrupt system disguised as a safe haven looking after our children, they do more damage that anything else. And if I can find an attorney who will help me sue the hell out these people I will spend the rest of my life trying to expose the conniving evil intentions of the CPS.

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  49. Ashley says:

    Dhr came in to remove my nephew who has been placed here with his grandmother for a year, tonight. The claim was that his grandmother was “non-compliant” to foster resources guidelines. She was never given a list in which she needed to adhere to, in order to remain compliant. She was not given a timeframe in which to become compliant. They took a bruised neglected little soul we received and had turned his attitude around 180 degrees right back to square one. After his grandmother had driven 2 hours one way to “comply” with their regulation she become a licensed foster care home, for six weeks. Then she provided background checks on everyone in the household on 12-12-15 in which nothing was ever said or returned. She was never told that because her son had a non violent crime in 2001 and since been clean she was not complying. She was never notified that anyone in the house needed to provide finger prints. ( Even though she gave them hers and mine were on record with agency for substitute teaching privledges) She was never told that my other nephews wife, which was awaiting imigration approval, living here was non compliance. They called her in for a meeting and told her they were coming to get him. I called foster resources and was told that they were removing him for something they notifed the grandmother of the previous day to get corrected. We had plans to correct it tomorrow morning. She said she would call and see what her supervisor said. The dhr worker then told me that it would be detrimental for the child to be removed as we awaited a decision and when they called back to give us til in the morning to handle it we all were relieved. Until they took him anyway. They changed their reason and the regional manager of dhr from another county made the call to remove him anyway. Not to mention, they never had an order for removal they simply had a notify to comply 7 day warning order. Oh and the United States was in a civil suit against our county, city, youth court judges, dhr, and youth services division for removing children without due process. I sent that screen shot in a text message to both the foster resources and dhr case worker. We will see what happens tomorrow and I will update you as to the out come.

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  50. Tisha says:

    I am wondering if you can give me any advice on my dcfs case?? I live in Utah my son’s lived with their dad in Oklahoma. My son told me about numerous additions of him and his brother being advised by their dad’s girlfriend. I called dcfs and my children were removed from the home. I have been jumping through hoops and done everything they have asked to get my children back. I have 2 young children at home and 1 getting ready for college. I p was told by Utah dcfs that they will not do a home study so I can get my children back due to my husband having a domestic violence change in front of a child. This is the only kind of trouble he’s ever been in. And since they won’t do the home study dcfs in Oklahoma says they won’t even think about releasing my children to me. I talked with my son today and he told me that the dcfs worker in Oklahoma told my son, his foster parent and my ex husband that I would never get my children back because there is violence in my home.. There is nothing going on in my home and I am willing to do what ever it takes to get my children back.

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  51. Nichole says:

    Can I get a name of a lawyer that will fight for my rights and be affordable

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  52. Kristina says:

    I am dealing with cps and they order my husband to leave my house .he has never hurt our children. We have our arguments but not once has my children been hurt . I am so worried n I really want my husband home . N so do my kids . What can I do to get them out of our lives n my husband back at our home ?

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  53. Yair alonso says:

    A social worker took 3 of my babys ….i hade court and have another one for april 4 mom has domestic v..for 2 time …i have 1 the last time …what do iii dooo?5622252916 yair alonso…

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  54. Jennifer ross says:

    Dcs in Monroe Co. Tn came to my residents in Blount Co tn I was fine with this I passed the urine screen and she was pleased with my child and the living conditions. She led me to believe that was all and she would be closing the case. I then moved to a different location. My ex filed emergency ex parte order on me under false allegations. As with dcs the allegations were false. Anyways I called the caseworker if she wouldn’t mind to say what she said to me regarding my child. She then said ” oh I wanted to get in touch with you I’ve been so overwhelmed with cases I haven’t closed yours I need to see u again?” What is happening? My ex called an said she’s backing him up in court??? Is this OK? What are my rights?

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  55. richprovost says:

    Due Process Violations all orders are void

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  56. Jill S Green says:

    CPS came in and forced me to send my two children, ages 13 and 15, back to live with their father. He is diagnosed with clinical depression and even attempted suicide. My younger is depressed. It didn’t matter because I was living in a homeless shelter, and he had a home. Now I can’t get into any housing because it’seems “mothers with children “,and I no longer have any. CPS totally ruined my life by pretending to be our “friends “. I wish I could fight them but I don’t know how.

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  57. shena mcclain says:

    I’m dealing with dcpp now my case has been ongoing for almost 4 years dcpp changed goal back to reunification about a year ago 4 of my children were in the system so far I’ve been giving one back at this present moment they have not returned another child or even done unsupervised visits I was told that the foster mother is trying to keep 2 of my children I’ve completed everything that was asked of me the goal is gradual reunification from dcpp therapist to this day I’m fighting to have all 4 of my children returned looking for information about who I can complain to about dcpp they removed my children stating I was mentally unstable I didn’t take the med so they took my children I finally found my own therapist and they wrote a letter saying I wasn’t mentally unstable so in return the goal went back to reunification

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  58. Robin says:

    I live in Washington state, my son was put in jail while in jail his girlfriend did get there daughter taken by Cps in Arkansas. My son requested that there daughter come to me. I got my home study done and am qualified for her to come to me. Now Arkansas is asking me to come to Arkansas so I can build a repor with my grand daughter, because I’ve never met her! So I came to Arkansas and have built a relationship with her I’m staying for 17 days in a hotel. The guardian ad liedem says that the foster care wants to adopt her and because she’s been there for almost a year that, that is her family! I have been requesting for her since the beginning of her being placed in foster care! I’m family! Because it’s such a distance from , Washington she feels that’s possibly not in the best interest of my grand daughter ! Family first is what I’ve been told! What thoughts do you have for me?

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  59. Destiny says:

    Thanks I am dealing with cps right now thanks so much

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  60. Ruthie Putnam says:

    Thank you so much for this information. It was as if I was reading my personal experience with DCFS right down to the very last detail, although I am the biological mother and not a foster parent. I could go on forever about my case, but it is very very similar to yours. I am court ordered to have reunification services and they are pulling out EVERY stop to terminate this, even saying that it has not actually been ordered and that just because I had a previous case (based on incorrect information and allegations) that I will probably NEVER get custody back of my newborn baby and my 4yr old. This whole case is based on COMPLETELY FALSE ALLEGATIONS and I have proof, but no one including my court appointed attorney will look at these documents. Oh except for the dependency investigator which as u said, works for DCFS. I was not aware I could request a fair hearing though, thanks for that. These ppl are trying to split my family up and it is working. They have labeled my boyfriend /kids father, as the “enabler” who refuses to admit that I have addiction or mental illness, even though he admits to this knowledge and even kept my medications in a lock box to keep me from abusing them. But even this was used against us. And of course they will not let me live or visit the kids in the home or they will detain them from him too. They already say that he is negligent and fails to protect the children by allowing me to see them. He USED to be an approved monitor for my oldest daughter, but now they’ve taken that away too. I am not even getting my court ordered visits and they are not required to follow this order either. All they have to do is make so called reasonable efforts. And then when u get angry and argue with them or try to advocate for yourself, they say u are unstable and unfit to be a parent. These ppl are truly EVIL. Thanks again for your advice. I too can’t afford a decent lawyer, so they have ALL the power and they KNOW IT!!!

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  61. Rose Fall says:

    I need help so bad! My parents are child molesters and they are trying to keep my kids! I’ve gone through two court appointed attorney…I have no legal council at this point! HELP! I have a hearing in a few days with no one to give me a notice as to when!

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  62. Ginny Elliott says:

    Very informative and shocked…just tripped over this at the most strategic time as I was about to call c p s in Kentucky.Unaware of the laws
    I knew what c p s did was unlawful..but was helpless and shocked.My situation is I never get to see or talk to my grandchildren.unknown where they live because they move around.My heart ‘ þis broken. I am now determined to start the pr cess..How do I find an ANTI C P S
    Attorney? THANKS
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  63. BOOM BOOM BANG says:

    CPS..DPS..DCFS..DDS..HEADS WILL ROLL I PROMISE ALL OF YOU!!!!!!🌷💋😇LIVE..LAUGH..LOVE!!!!💞😇😀

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  64. Mela Moquin says:

    In 1997 the Clinton’s met Jeffery Epstien convicted pedophile billionaire, that year they instated the Walter Mondale kid snatching law, Adoptions and safe families Act by giving CPS childrens protective services Large sums of money per child stolen from good parents without cause. Bill Richardson NM Bohemian Grove supports Hillary. Private prisons support Hillary, parents put in jail without bond. Zorro,*Soros Ranch Santa Fe NM owned by Jeffery Epstien convicted pedophile. Judge Karen Parsons NM stealing teens without evidence. Courts sealed CPS committed perjury. Nancy Shaffer died exposing racketeering of children by the Clinton’s. Hillary is the champion of Adoptions and pays ‘anyone’ taxpayer dollars to adopt kids. Where are these kids and how are they better off for being stolen from loving parents without evidence. Dissent and demand Accountability for every child stolen from good parents without cause by the Clinton’s.

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  65. Sonya hutchisin says:

    I had a social worker forge my initials on documents to receive drug screens from the suboxone clinic I attend…I lost custody of my kids because I was a heroine addict…I was in jail for 17 months and I knew going back home would cause major triggers….so I choose the suboxone clinic…I have a full time job I have a nice vehicle insurance a very nice big home now with a fiance who does the same and is in recovery also. but like I said my vase worker checked the other box, wrote drug screens on my medical release and initialed beside it, I know because I made sure to read all documents….so just to be safe I would carry a recorder into every session and ask for copies of everything you sign for your attorney even if you don’t have one say that you do

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  66. Diana Ponce says:

    I am blown away by this information and it’s almost as if I went through all of this myself. I need assistance in finding a very good lawyer to have my case reopened IR reviewed or to make changes on my visitation rights that I was only given. I was actually only awarded a one time phone call from the foster mom. I have not seen or heard my children since February 2014. Please help me. I have been desperate for ever I just don’t know who to trust or believe in I feel betrayed by everyone.

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  67. Marie says:

    I need help! I had my daughter taken from me and put in my grandmothers custody (thank god) about 2 years ago, and I was awarded custody back and her father lost his rights and the case was closed. Now, a year later, a case has been opened because in attempt for my daughter to have some sort of relationship with her father I let them have supervised visits. I was under the impression he was doing well. He was working, he said he was sober, he had drug tests to prove it, his probation officer said he was doing well and was about to get off, so I thought it was safe for them to at least start having a relationship with me supervising. Well on his birthday we went to his home and visited. She ended up falling asleep, so we ended up staying the night on the couch. Well her father got up for work that morning as we stayed sleeping. The next thing I knew I was told to get out of bed by his probation officer at 7 in the morning. So I did, and realized what was going on. I guess his PO had shown up and I guess he was using in the kitchen while we were sleeping! I had no idea and he even told his PO this, but his PO said he didn’t buy it and that I HAD to have known!!! Ridiculous! Anyways because my daughter was there DCFS was called and an active case was opened. A few days later Dcfs came to MY house to discuss everything. I told them that I had no idea he was using, that i have been clean, was off probation and never had a dirty UA since getting her back the first time. Well they even said I should have known! I don’t get it! I thought I did everything right and had proof it was safe for her to see her father! Now after 1 mistake of trusting him I’m scared they will take my daughter and completely traumatize her and rip her away from a LOVING AND CARING home! There is no need for it! I provided them with a UA that same day and it was clean, and agreed to random UA’s to prove that I’m sober! Plus I have been on probation and never failed a drug test! Anyway they have not taken it to court yet or removed my daughter, but I don’t trust them! Now they are wanting me to continue to drug test( which is fine I have nothing to hide) but they want a hair follicle from my daughter! I know she has not been exposed to anything in my care, but they said if she was around it it will show up, and now I am scared because of the visits with her father. What if he was using during our visits and I didn’t know or just anything and it shows up? They will use that to take her when I have been nothing but a good mommy to my princess! She has the most loving home and anything she could ask for! If I give them clean UA’s and this did not happen in my home is refusing to giving them a hair follicle reason enough to take me to court or remove my child? Or if I did do it and somehow something showed up can they take her away even though I’m sober and provide a good home? I’m scared and I CANNOT lose my baby!! She doesn’t deserve it and I could never live with myself if that happened! There are so many kids out there that actually being abused and neglected and it pisses me off that they are just getting away with it, yet DCFS is trying to traumatize and rip apart my family and child when it’s a perfectly loving and stable home! HELP!

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  68. jean says:

    approximately 33 days ago CPS was called on me anonymously for supposedly beating my children with a baseball bat, burning down my apartment, being a drug user and having unruly children. Non of which is true. My 4 year old has sensory issues leading to some unsavory bahaviors is about all the truth in the allegations. I was called on a Friday afternoon and waited until 10:00 pm for a worker to show up. I was at that time willing to let her in since I have nothing to hide. I rescheduled a meeting for the next Monday to be interviewed at her office, with children in tow. I was asked very personal questions and stayed on the lighter side of the truth of my childhood. (Not knowing I had a right to stay silent.) I was told all that needed to be done was to have a home visit. After reading this article I am now asking myself why they would have to visit my home unless it would be to gather ‘evidence’. I’m beginning to realize that having my home inspected is irrelevant to the accusations against me. It has been 30 days since I was last contacted. I feel as though there may be a fishing expedition in play and there is no real ‘evidence’. Thank you for you insight. I will not be vountarily allowing any worker into my home without a warrant. I have cooperated fully at this point. If my children were In real danger and abuse was truly suspected, someone would have been here by now. What makes me sicker is that I was a foster child and had bonded with a particular family and was set to be adopted by them and was taken from them, adopted by a family that was wealthier than they were and very badly abused. I’m seeing a clearer picture as to why now. Thank you for helping me protect my babies.

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