CPS is Not Your Friend


In all your dealings with CPS, even if your worker seems friendly and helpful, always keep in mind that the CPS system is NOT your friend, NOT your counselor, and NOT your advocate. Understand that you are in an adversarial (oppositional) relationship with CPS, that you are being evaluated and investigated by CPS, that CPS can take your child, and that every thing you say can and often will be used against you.

The very words ‘child protective services’ sound so humanitarian, and so in tune with what mothers want, especially those mothers who are dealing with a violent partner, that women frequently make the serious mistake of thinking that CPS is their friend. Or they think that CPS will at least by on the same side with them, or that CPS will naturally work to support their needs and interests. This mistaken belief is even easier to fall into when the CPS worker is friendly or tells you directly that she or he wants to help you. In fact, your worker may truly believe that he or she is there to help you. CPS workers themselves are often blind to the underlying dynamics of the system they work for.

The reality is that CPS system is a government agency armed with the enormous power to take your child, and to do so on only the most minimal pretext, with only the smallest sliver of evidence, and minimal due process rights for you. The CPS system is set up to investigate and judge whether or not you are a fit parent, even when everyone knows you are not the one who abused your child.

So, if you are a non-offending parent, in all your dealings with CPS, remember, CPS is not your friend! CPS is not your counselor! CPS is not your advocate! If you always keep this in mind, it will help you avoid some common and tragic mistakes. It will also help you to take basic, but critical steps to protect yourself from CPS abuses of power along the way.

Here are the kinds of mistakes so many women fall into when they believe that CPS is on their side. Women often pour their hearts out to CPS. They open their homes and family life to CPS, and give CPS all kinds of intimate information that CPS then can, and often will, use against you. Another big mistake women make when they think CPS is on their side, is that they trust that CPS is looking after their interests. They let their guard down. They don’t pay attention to what’s going on. They don’t prepare and protect themselves. And, all too often, they don’t wake up until it’s too late.

Example: Here’s just one example of the kind of tragedy that occurs over and over again when women think CPS is on their side. An exhausted mother has been coping with an abusive husband for years. One day her 10-year-old daughter tells a teacher that the reason she’s late to school is because her father got in a fight with her mother after breakfast and he started beating her mother. The teacher reports this to CPS. The CPS worker tells the mother she wants to help the family. The mother bares her heart to the worker. The mother tells the CPS worker how stressed she has been. How much trouble she has sleeping. How fearful she is in the home. She tells CPS that a year ago she went to a shelter, but soon returned to the abusive husband because she didn’t think she could make enough money to feed the children. She says she tries to warn the children against being around the father when he gets in that mood. She says she doesn’t know what to do.

Then one day the mother gets a copy of the written CPS report. She is stunned to read that the worker has written that ‘this mother is out of control, can’t cope, is mentally unstable and unable to protect the child’, and that, furthermore, the mother is ‘alienating the children from the father’. And that based on this, CPS is petitioning the court to remove the child from the mother.

It happens like this over and over again. So right from the beginning, understand that CPS is geared up and empowered to protect children against parents. CPS is not working on your behalf. Even if CPS lines up a whole set of programs for you to attend to help you keep your child, you need to realize that if you don’t comply with these programs to CPS satisfaction, CPS holds the threat of taking your child. This does not constitute a friendly relationship. Even though every one agrees that you did not abuse the child, you are in an adversarial (oppositional) relationship with CPS, and a particularly precarious adversarial relationship at that.

The proof that you are in an adversarial (oppositional) relationship with CPS is that (in most states) the juvenile court must assign you an attorney to represent your interests and protect you from CPS powers when you’re in court with CPS. This is a huge clue that even the courts recognize that you, the non-offending parent, are in an adversarial relationship with CPS and that you need legal protection from CPS powers.

Another way to look at this is to understand that the only special power authorized to the CPS/juvenile court system is a power that can hurt you badly, i.e., the power to take your child. CPS is not empowered in any special way to help you. It’s true that CPS can give you referrals to various social and psychological services, but those are all things that you can do for yourself. Worse yet, when CPS gives you these referrals, they are usually mandated referrals given under threat of losing your child if you don’t comply. But in terms of any unique governmental power designed to help you, the non-offending parent, CPS has nothing. CPS is not empowered to hold the perpetrator accountable, is not empowered to obtain justice for either you or your child, and is not empowered to protect you.

It’s critical that you understand that once CPS opens a case on your child, even though everyone knows you are not the abuser, you are being investigated and judged by the CPS system. And a determination is being made as to whether or not to take your child. This is not a friendly relationship. You are in an adversarial (oppositional) relationship with CPS.

It’s worth repeating. It does not matter how helpful, encouraging, or humanitarian your individual CPS worker might be, the CPS system is NOT your friend. They are investigating you. You are under threat of losing your child.

NOTE: The CPS system was established in the middle of last century at a time when women’s and children’s rights within the family were not well established. Family violence was not viewed as a crime, i.e. was not viewed as a serious offense against society. A man’s home was his castle, and women and children were his legal inferiors. CPS was structured in a way to conform to these very patriarchal views, and, for the most part, CPS structure and operation remains legally locked into those outdated and oppressive modes today.

About yvonnemason

Background:  The eldest of five children, Yvonne was born May 17, 1951 in Atlanta, Georgia. Raised in East Point, Georgia, she moved to Jackson County, Ga. until 2006 then moved to Port St. Lucie, Florida where she currently makes her home.  Licensed bounty hunter for the state of Georgia. Education:  After a 34 year absence, returned to college in 2004. Graduated with honors in Criminal Justice with an Associate’s degree from Lanier Technical College in 2006. Awards:  Nominated for the prestigious GOAL award in 2005 which encompasses all of the technical colleges. This award is based not only on excellence in academics but also leadership, positive attitude and the willingness to excel in one’s major. Affiliations:  Beta Sigma Phi Sorority  Member of The Florida Writer’s Association – Group Leader for St Lucie County The Dream:  Since learning to write at the age of five, Yvonne has wanted to be an author. She wrote her first novel Stan’s Story beginning in 1974 and completed it in 2006. Publication seemed impossible as rejections grew to 10 years. Determined, she continued adding to the story until her dream came true in 2006. The Inspiration:  Yvonne’s brother Stan has been her inspiration and hero in every facet of her life. He was stricken with Encephalitis at the tender age of nine months. He has defied every roadblock placed in his way and has been the driving force in every one of her accomplishments. He is the one who taught her never to give up The Author: Yvonne is currently the author of several novels, including:  Stan’s Story- the true story of her brother’s accomplishments, it has been compared to the style of Capote, and is currently being rewritten with new information for re-release.  Tangled Minds - a riveting story about a young girl’s bad decision and how it taints everyone’s life around her yet still manages to show that hope is always possible. This novel has been compared to the writing of Steinbeck and is currently being written as a screenplay. This novel will be re-released by Kerlak Publishing in 2009  Brilliant Insanity – released by Kerlak Publishing October 2008  Silent Scream – Released by Lulu.com October 2008- Slated to be made into a movie Yvonne’s Philosophy in Life - “Pay it Forward”: “In this life we all have been helped by others to attain our dreams and goals. We cannot pay it back but what we can do is ‘pay it forward’. It is a simple
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4 Responses to CPS is Not Your Friend

  1. 2endtherat says:

    The corruption of CPS is nationwide and NOBODY is exempt from their abusive practices. This is one agency that needs a major overhaul and better checks and balances. Too many children and families destroyed be these people.

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  2. Rain says:

    this is so true. I wrote a blog about my experiences here at mychildisnotforsale.wordpress.com

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  3. NICOLE ENGELKE says:

    CPS ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS THEY ALL WORK FOR THE DAM GOVERMENT AND THE ASSHOLES GET PAID FOR IT. BY THE WAY MY NAME IS NICOLE ENGELKE AND MY THREE CHILDREN GOT TOOKIN AWAY FROM DCF AND PLACED IN A FOSTER HOME. THEY TAKE YOUR CHILDREN CAUSE THE GOVERMENT PAYS THEM TOO THATS WHY FLORIDA IS NUMBER ONE HITLER IN THIS FUCKED UP TOWN. ALL OF YOU WILL PAY IN SOME WAY MAY GOD PUNISH ALL OF YOU FOR DESTROYING OUR LIVES AND OUR CHILDRENS LIFES YOU WILL PAY YOU UNDERSTAND ME. IAM A MOTHER OF THREE AND IAM FURIOUS RIGHT NOW HOW THEY VIOLATED MINE AND MY CHILDRENS RIGHTS AND THEY DO NOT CARE. ONCE I BRING THIS UP NOW THAT I KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO THE JUDGE THEY VIOLATED THE FOURTH AMENDMENT THEY ARE SCREWED AND THE FAT LADY COURTNEY WHO TOOK MY KIDS AND THE OFFICER WILL BE SUIED TOO SO MUCH HE DOES NOT KNOW TOO BAD. YOU WILL ALL BE PUNISHED FOR THIS

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  4. Maria Powers says:

    The only thing that really coming out of this is how they hurt so many in the USA !!! They are getting away with it ..so People who Say FEMA is not really Going to happen look what they have Done what is stopping this action they have Done to us ..stopped them from killing us? What is next? FEMA has to be a real thing Civil Rights? Ware have they Been Civil?

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